Sibling Rivalry & Solidarity for the Red Bulls’ Nealis Brothers

Brotherly competition drove the four Nealis Brothers in their early years – and now Sean and Dylan are pulling in the same direction as the NY Red Bulls hunt a first Open Cup crown.
By: Michael Lewis

Whenever the Nealis brothers get together at their parents’ home in Massapequa, New York, there’s a pretty good chance some sort of competition will break out.

And it probably won’t be a friendly encounter. After all, it's in their DNA.

Two of the four, Sean and Dylan, patrol the backline for the New York Red Bulls. But they’ll still tussle with older siblings, Jimmy and Conor, whenever the opportunity arises. Back when they were kids, whether it was soccer, basketball or another sport, Dylan said the games were always "super competitive.”

"In my DNA I hate losing," added. "You play against your brothers; you hate losing even more. It's bragging rights at dinner that night. It's bragging rights the rest of the week. When you see each other in the house, you just remind them, 'Hey, remember when I beat you in the backyard?' It's just a constant rivalry that goes back and forth. It only propelled our careers and helped us in the long run."

Those battles helped the brothers raise their level in high school, college and now the pros.

Competitive Instinct

"You kind of get an innate competitive instinct that you can't really teach," Sean said. "It was good to have that instilled in us. In practices here [with] the Red Bulls, I just have a different gear and a different drive – kind of wanting to win in everything we do."

Being the youngest of the four helped Dylan when he played against older and larger players in high school and college.

 "Whether Sean, Connor or Jimmy had practices I always wanted to be involved," said the baby of the family, not short of mentors or role models. "I thought if I can get acclimated with an older age group at a young age, it would only help me."

Dylan and Sean after a game against the Chicago Fire

That formative competitiveness at family gatherings is toned down a bit these days.

"We’re kind of getting old and we want to limit injury," Sean admitted. “There's still a little bit of smack-talk if a game of ping pong or something is on the table."

It’s that drive that’s helped the Red Bulls advance to the Round of 16 in the Lamar Hunt U.S. Open Cup. They’ll host fellow Major League Soccer outfit Charlotte FC at Red Bull Arena on Wednesday, May 25 at 8 p.m. ET (LIVE on ESPN+).

In chronological order, a quick biographical look at the brothers:

  • Jimmy, 30, a defender with Georgetown University who competed for the New York Cosmos

  • Conor, 27, a midfielder and defender who played at Binghamton University

  • Sean, 25, a defender who attended Hofstra University before he was chosen by the Red Bulls in the second round of the 2019 MLS SuperDraft

  • Dylan, 23, a defender, who was a 2019 Hermann Trophy finalist and a member of Georgetown's 2019 NCAA championship team. He was chosen by Inter Miami as the third overall pick in the 2020 SuperDraft before eventually being dealt to Nashville SC (who traded him to the Red Bulls this January).

Strong Soccer Roots in Massapequa

The brothers grew up in the soccer-saturated town of Massapequa, N.Y. They played for the Massapequa Soccer Club, one of the oldest youth clubs in the United States, which celebrated its 50th anniversary last year. Among the club’s founding fathers were a pair of National Soccer Hall of Fame members – one-time Cosmos head coach Gordon Bradley and Joe Maca, who played for the U.S. Men's National Team that shocked England at the 1950 World Cup in Brazil.

Aside from winning dozens of Eastern New York Youth Soccer Association State Cups, and several national championships, MSC has produced several professional and National Team players of note.

Sean Nealis in action at Hofstra University

The men's side includes Toronto FC president Bill Manning, Alain Maca, the very first player drafted in North American Soccer League (NASL) history, former indoor soccer standout Alan Bodenstein and goalkeeper Dan Vitiello (Sacramento Republic, USL Championship).

The women are represented by midfielder Emily Pickering, who scored the second goal in U.S. Women’s National Team history, forward Christie Welsh – a former Women's United Soccer Association standout who scored 20 goals in 41 appearances with the USWNT. Also former USWNT midfielder Danielle Egan, the wife of Austin FC sporting director and former USMNT captain Claudio Reyna.

Fertile Soil for Future Pros

"Just very thankful that I played there," Sean said. “I stayed there all my youth career and I had a lot of great coaches and great trainers. Friends for life…It was great playing for them."

Dylan agreed. "We were lucky. It's such a soccer-rich environment where it was super competitive."

This isn't the first time the Nealis brothers have played together on the same team. They were members of the Massapequa High School team that won the New York State Class AA championship in 2012. Dylan was named tournament MVP, and the two connected for winning goals in the semifinals and final. They also played on the high school basketball team.

Dylan in his Georgetown days 

They’ve played together so much that they say they can read each other's minds.

"It's almost like telepathy," Dylan said. "We know each other's moves, next moves. If he makes a mistake, I'll have his back. If I make a mistake, he has mine. I think it will only improve as this year goes on."

Added Sean: "It's a comfort. Kind of like a sixth sense."

The Red Bulls have produced one of the most unusual starts to a season in MLS’ 27-year history. Entering Sunday's game at Inter Miami, they were winless at Red Bull Arena (0-2-4) but undefeated on the road (5-0-1). They also won both of their Open Cup matches away from home.

Road Joys & Home Woes

"On the road we have a little more adversity and a little more of an edge," said Sean. "When we're at home we're a little more comfortable and a little laid back. We have to switch into that next gear that we're accustomed to on the road. When teams come into Red Bull Arena, they’ve sat back a little bit and almost played for the transition – to see if we can beat them with our own style.

“I think this week we have a chance to fix that," added Sean.

"Teams are coming into Red Bull Arena thinking they can get some points,” said Dylan, who played with Nashville SC last year. “If we can fix our mentality in our home games and make teams fear coming to Red Bull Arena, come playoff time, it won’t matter to us whether it is a home game or an away game.”

Both Dylan and Sean see a possible deep Cup run in 2022

While it’s not a league game, the Red Bulls will have an opportunity to win their first at home across all competitions when they host Charlotte FC in the Cup.

Both teams are coming off impressive wins in the tournament, the country’s oldest soccer competition.

The Red Bulls bested Hartford Athletic 2-1 in the Third Round before a 3-0 win at D.C. United in the Round of 32. Charlotte FC, an MLS expansion team, defeated the Greenville Triumph 2-1 in the Third Round and the Richmond Kickers in the Round of 32 (5-1).

Open Cup Target

Sean has his sights set on winning the Open Cup. The Red Bulls have never taken a victory lap with the old trophy, losing in the 2003 and 2017 Finals to the Chicago Fire and Sporting Kansas City respectively.

"That's pivotal for us," Sean said about his ambitions. "We want to win badly."

If the Red Bulls can lift the Cup, it would be “a big milestone for the fans, for everybody here – employees, players and coaches,” Sean added. “It also puts us in the [Concacaf] Champions League…We have a chance to make history."



Both Red Bulls captain Aaron Long and goalkeeper Ryan Meara, who know what it’s like to come up just shy of hoisting the Cup, have talked to their teammates about the 2017 Final.

 "Those two guys are just stressing the importance of how fun this could be if we do go all the way," Dylan said. "It's our first home game in the Open Cup and maybe the ticket to jump-starting our home form. You can tell from the lineups we've put out we're taking this tournament completely seriously.

“It's a trophy to chase,” concluded Dylan, forged, like all the Nealis boys, in the fire of family competition and solidarity. “We're not backing down from lifting a trophy."

Michael Lewis can be reached at and @Soccerwriter on Twitter. His book (ALIVE AND KICKING The incredible but true story of the Rochester Lancers) is available for purchase.

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